Hook a Brother Up

We've all heard the expression "Hook aA Brother Up." And what better to hook a guy up with than a woman?

Every single guy on the planet has at least a few girls as friends. So in theory, the more guys you know, the more girls you should know.

Imagine you get a phone call from one of your buddies that goes something like this:

"Hey, bro, check it out. I was talking to my friend Stacy, you know, the hot blonde chick you liked in that picture I showed you? And since you're my boy, I was selling you big time and she was buying it.

"After I told her how you're a musician, a martial artist, and how you hate broccoli as much as she does, she's dying to meet you. Here's her number - I told her to keep Friday night open so you can set something up with her."

Holy Christ. Is this a friend or what?

Call me a Psych major, but let's analyze this a bit, shall we? Your friend just took care of at least 80% of the work for you - we've entirely bypassed the awkwardness of trying to establish eye contact and the potential rejection at a request for a dance/conversation/phone number, etc...

And not to mention, she already knows some stuff about you - stuff that will serve as a starting point in conversation. So now that your friend has eliminated most of the nerve-racking aspects of an initial male-female interaction, the rest should be smooth sailing.

As we all know, you're a great guy, and being with you is the best decision any girl could ever make - the only issue (until now, that is) was getting a girl to give you the time of day to prove this much to her.

Well now you've got her time - your good friend (who will be generously rewarded either in terms of alcohol the next time you're out together, or by returning the favor with a girl you're friends with) has already made sure of this.

Logically, it's much easier (mentally, emotionally and even financially) to learn that a woman is unavailable and/or uninterested from your friend than it is to come to this same conclusion after: getting shot down, being blown off/stood up, given a fake number, or getting milked by (Doc Love's coined-terms) a "mercenary" or "professional dater."

Womankind, allied with Cosmo magazine and female-biased love experts, has waged a war on man a long time ago - a war that we can win if we put our heads together and outsmart these simple, emotional creatures with our superior logic.

Read everything on the DJ site - if you're serious about improving yourself and your love life, then you can't go wrong.

And remember, the next time a female friend of yours is complaining/whining/crying to you about what a scumbag her boyfriend is, how she hates being alone, or how she can't find a good guy, open your mouth and utter something that sounds like this:

"Stephanie, have I ever told you about my friend Joe? No? Oh, he's great! You'd love him..."

Then talk your friend up the way he would do for you; whether you get this guy laid, a one time only date, or even just a phone number, he'll appreciate your effort more than you know and will be especially eager to reciprocate that same kindness.

The Friends Mentality

One thing that I've noticed about lots of guys coming here is that they are wondering how to turn themselves from losers into players. It doesn't work that way!
As everyone here knows all too well, the biggest distinction between players and losers lies within confidence/self-esteem.

I have this theory as to why some people tend to have problems approaching girls:

Sex is viewed like the Holy Grail, a passage into manhood, or the sense of achieving identity by some individuals.

If these people aren't getting any, their infatuation with sex becomes detrimental, lowering their confidence level at the constant thought of what they're not getting. As a result, talking to girls becomes difficult because the approach lies solely on the intent of getting laid.

These sex-craved individuals lose their composure, because their efforts strive toward achieving something they have yet to experience, or have trouble experiencing. This occurs due to the pressure they put on themselves to achieve their ideal goal of getting laid.

To make my point here: Instead of approaching girls with the intent to sex them, approach girls with the intention of just being friends.

Humans are social animals. We strive at building solid relationships with other individuals. How hard is it to make friends?

This strategy can achieve the following for you:

* The ability to just be yourself. No pressure here, folks!

* The ability to gain the confidence in just being yourself to approach girls.

* The experience obtained from approaching and talking to girls.

* The possibility that your "friend" would gladly step in to play matchmaker for you.

Dating and sex are complex in their own right, so they must be achieved in steps. Try passing Linear Algebra without having taken any math classes in between arithmetic and Linear Algebra. You can't just jump.

When sex is the first thing you picture in your head when you first see a girl, it's inevitable your nerves will falter... if you approach her with the focus of such an outcome, especially if inexperienced.

Approaching girls as yourself with the hopes of becoming nothing more than friends, you will reflect genuinity, confidence, and friendly warmth -- traits girls look for in guys.

You may not hit it off with these girls, but the experience you get from it will truly make it easier to approach girls.

Relax, stop trying to act like someone you're not. Stop trying to manipulate and read or direct her actions, because all of these factor in on the lack of concentration you need to talk with confidence to girls.

Once you achieve the necessary confidence, that's when you can start worrying about the other factors.

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