Over the past few years, in actively and consciously trying to meet women, I have learned a few things. Some of these came as enlightening epiphanies, some came with groans and slaps to the forehead, but they all came with experience.
- It's supposed to be fun. You can't and won't win em all. Get something out of every interaction you have with a woman. Learn something. Entertain yourself with her.
- Be willing to change, but only for yourself.
- It really is a numbers game. Play the numbers, roll with the punches. It's a roller coaster, ups and downs, baby. "When you're up, it's never as good as it seems and when you're down it seems like you'll never get up again." You will.
- "Good things come to those that wait". Not this time. Good things come to those that act. The 3-second rule works on many levels.
- In general, it is bad form to apologize. For anything. You can admit you were wrong, you can offer to make things right, but don't apologize.
- There is no such thing as overconfidence. There is such a thing as taking yourself too seriously, however.
- Do not ask permission to do or say anything. Never ask a woman if you can kiss them, hug them, hold them, etc.
- Agreeable is boring.
- Jealousy is a "let's just be friends" best friend.
- Humor covers a multitude of sins. Laughing is an aphrodisiac. Learn to be funny. Listen to comedy albums. George Carlin, Eddie Murphy, Chris Rock.
- Never ask questions that are designed to find out what she thinks of you.
- Role reversal is great fun, and it works. Act like she is trying to get into your pants. Play hard to get. Fight fire with fire.
- Nobody likes a complainer. Unless he's really funny.
- A fireplace is a worthwhile investment.
- A drop of vanilla extract in your bottle of cologne. One spray on your throat, one on your chest, and a little behind your ears.
- The only thing that matters with a woman is now. What she thought of you 10 minutes ago is probably different from what she thinks of you now and what she might think of you 10 minutes from now. So don't worry about what she thinks of you.
- You must lead. Even if you don't know where you're going. Make it an adventure. Take her hand and lead.
- Touch her first, immediately, briefly. Let the kino progress naturally. Don't force it.
- Life isn't fair and dating is a part of life. Dating, dealing with women, isn't and isn't supposed to be fair. Get over it.
- There is no such thing as playing out of your league. Everyone is in the same league. There may be all-stars and scrubs, but even all-stars lose and even scrubs can become all-stars with practice.
- Women love dogs.
- Take periodic breaks from the game. Focus on your other interests. Get your life straightened out. Do something else, then come back.
- Get her to call you, do you favors, adjust her schedule for you, etc.
- The difference between being congruent and sending mixed signals:
Being congruent has to do with who you are. Sending mixed signals is about how you feel about her.
- If you plan to get serious with a woman, there are a few things you should take into account. First, she will turn into her mother. Second, she will turn into her mother.
- A woman will test you and keep on testing you. Don't get too comfortable. Stay on your toes.
- Good dancers are good in bed.
- Good kissers are good in bed.
- Don't let flirting drag on. Stop while it's still fun. Close, or leave and come back.
- Women like sex just as much as we do. They like to talk about it just as much as we do too, maybe even more. But not in the same way.
