"Desire is a manifestation of power", writes Wallace Wattles in 'The Science of Getting Rich', "Where there is no power either developed or undeveloped, to do a thing, there is never any desire to do that thing; & where there is a strong desire to do a thing, it is certain proof that the power to do it is strong."
Many people have very low self-esteem when it comes to dating and relationships. Often a person begins to feel that they don't deserve to be with anyone...that they don't deserve a lover. However, this is just self-pity brought about by self-imposed limitations.
If you desire good dating and relationship experiences then the very fact that you have that desire means that you CAN attain it as well.
Just like a kid who wants to play football or a sport of some sort. The desire to succeed will be accompanied by an ability to do so.
This can just be a raw ability. This means that often an ability needs to be developed with self education, practice and experience.