Let me start by saying that I am talking about both women and men here. You can call it my little disclaimer if you will, but I really feel this is a principle that applies to both sexes. Not that I am perfect (trust me I will be the first to name all my flaws if you ask me), but I personally feel pretty special when a guy I like wants to date me. So in return I like to try to show that as best I can.
When you first meet someone, they are generally pretty sweet and try to impress you, which generally continues at least through the first few dates. Sometimes, however, this nice thing stops and is replaced with the person’s unwillingness to admit they like you. This generally happens because the person gets comfortable with the idea that you like them which then develops a cocky attitude. You know the whole idea that you like them so they can do no wrong.
Well, here’s a news flash for people that do this. When a person likes you and decides they want to date you, they can stop at anytime. Dating, no matter what level it is at (serious or not quite serious yet) takes work. Just because you figured out that the other person wants you doesn’t mean that you don’t have to try anymore. If you want the person to continue to like you, then you need to continue to do the things that made them like you in the first place.
Now, I am not talking about buying them tons of things or being at anyone’s beck and call. No one says you have to go broke or worship the ground a person walks on to show you like them. I am also not talking about teasing and joking around. It’s totally fine to razz the person you like a little; it’s fun and can actually be foreplay. Just as long as you remember that there is a line between pulling the braids of the girl that you like and shoving her face in the sand on the playground. Don’t ever cross it.
What I am talking about here are the little things. Like when they say something nice to you or flirt with you randomly in the middle of the day. Normally you would flirt back, but now you no longer feel compelled to do so. Clearly it doesn’t seem necessary since you already know they like you back. So you play it cool and don’t act excited about what they are saying to you. Just think about the way a 16-year-old boy acts once his friends find out he’s whipped. I think you get the idea here.
The bottom line is that you should never take it for granted when a person likes you and/or wants to date you. It doesn’t matter how awesome you may think you are, no one has to want to date you. Rather, someone chooses to date you and they can choose not to just as easily.
Online Dating Is Not A Contest
