I got a note from an old friend saying some divorce dating topics on the blog would be helpful to her. Here’s what she wrote:
“Not sure if you know that I a divorced mom of 2 ... I have been on my own for several years and have been very careful with dating, integrating etc... I have been dating someone for over a year and am now starting to integrate the kids into the picture. I have been very slow in the process as I do not believe in parading men in and out of my kids life, etc...
Would love to hear thoughts on...
1. How long should you wait to introduce the kids to someone your dating? ...
2. How long should you wait to have “spend the nights” with the person you are dating and your kids. Should you have a talk with your kids beforehand.... Should you ease into it... have the person start with the couch and then move to the bedroom???
3. Steps to make sure that the person you are dating is a good fit for you and for your kids. I do not think people think this through... Can they handle day-to-day life with the chaos that kids bring – from sibling fights, every day chatter, activities, etc....”
So ladies (and gentlemen) gives us your thoughts on my friend’s questions. I’m sure you all will have some good insight into what has worked and what hasn’t!
