Mind Your Words

Looking for love online and thought you could get away with spelling errors? Then you’d better mind your writing style. A research done by the Queensland University of Technology, Australia, says that spelling errors, wrong grammar and use of too many exclamation marks can be a major put off for some.

If your writing style is not impressive enough, you face the threat of easily being dismissed by those looking for a potential partner.

Ask 20-year-old design student Samaira Singhal, who says she judges the date-worthiness of a guy while chatting within the first few minutes. “If he goes on messing up his grammar, or uses wrong spellings, I know he is not dating material. Typos are pardonable to some extent but not messing up your language.” Stylist Dolly Gupta too hates conversing online with someone who has a pathetic writing style.

“That’s the very first parameter of judging a person. It’s not as if you have to display your brilliance, but some basic etiquette is a must. If a guy can’t spell words rightly, or goes on typing in capital letters, I know he will bore me after a while.” People are also judged on the online names they use. Names like ‘rock star’, ‘dashing guy’ and ‘loner dude’ can be disappointing too. “I would rather go for a ‘Vikram Ahuja’ than chat with a ‘hot hunk’. I can’t take such people seriously,” says Guha. Psychiatrist Samir Parikh has a different take on the topic, though. “It’s unfair to judge someone on the basis on his language skills. Communication goes beyond grammar. People are giving too much importance to their online life and expect the same from others.”

Hone Your Net-etiquette

1. Choose your words carefully. Avoid using phrases, such as, ‘hi baby’, ‘hey sweetie’ or ‘hello sweetheart’ unless you want the girl to block you forever.

2. Slangs are a strict no-no while dating online, unless of course you want to be tagged as a rude, ill-mannered person.

3. Try to be precise and steer clear from repeating words. Repetitions bore the person.

4. While chatting with someone for the first time, do not ask too many personal questions.

5. Don’t keep sending fun mails or social messages to someone you are dating. It may be great for you, but not for everyone.

6. Using capital letters is like screaming in someone’s ear. Avoid it.

I Think My Ex Is Dating My Best Friend

By Jann Blackstone-Ford and Sharyl Jupe

Q: While looking at Facebook, I just found out that my so-called best friend is “with” my ex. I can see photos of them having a great time together at a party last weekend that I could not go to. I’m sick. It’s only been weeks and my friends all know how our breakup has hurt me. I can’t believe my absolute best friend has betrayed me in this way. What’s good ex-etiquette for dating your best friend’s ex?

A: “Don’t date your best friend’s ex” is one of the unwritten rules of good ex-etiquette, but we all know it happens and it’s often the end of a beautiful friendship. Sometimes “friends” don’t even wait until your ex is an ex, so from that standpoint it sounds like you are ahead of the game.

Be careful that you’re not jumping to conclusions: Even though you’ve seen provocative pictures on Facebook, it’s easy to take pictures that suggest something is going on when it really isn’t. If there’s kissing and groping, then that’s an issue to scream about, but if it’s just suggestive mugging for the camera, although “uncool” in concept, it may not be what it seems.

There’s a red flag here, though. If days have gone by, it’s sketchy that a best friend hasn’t told you she saw your ex at the party. To us, that could mean one of two things: Either they are fooling around and she’s afraid to say something, or they aren’t fooling around and the mugging was so insignificant she didn’t think it was important to mention.

But, knowing women the way we do, we think if your best friend saw your ex at a party it wouldn’t be uncommon for her to go as far as call you on the phone in the bathroom to tell you he’s there. Or, at least call the next morning with a, “Guess who I saw last night?”

So, based on that, it’s time to have a conversation with your friend — not your ex — about what’s going on. That’s the relationship you want to salvage, so that’s who you talk to. Don’t use this as an excuse to talk to your ex — he’s your past. Before you ask your friend the question, figure out what it means to you if the answer is yes. Do you really care if they’re seeing each other? If you do, consider using the Ten Rules of Good Ex-etiquette for Dating as your guide. They can be found on the Bonus Families website and include, “Be true to yourself,” “stay calm when confronted (or confronting someone else),” and “set clear boundaries.”

Finally, you have to ask yourself how good a friend she really is if she’s dating someone you’re still in love with so soon after your breakup. If she put the pictures on Facebook, she wanted you to see them.

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