By Bessie R. Serrano. Most online dating advice tells men what to do. How to “turn on” women – emotionally, physically, intellectually, even spiritually. But let’s take a moment and focus on what “not” to do so man don’t kill hos chances before he even start.
Compromise The Leadership
This doesn’t mean man have to be macho or false. It means that women generally look for a man who is a leader, if only in his own life. So man need to look at profile and see where he can project a sense of authority. If man not technically a leader of other people at work or in his community life, how is man a leader in his family? How is he a thought leader? How is he influence people around him? How is he self-directed, following his own star, his own morals or his own art? How is he solid in who he is – and not subservient to others? Man must show that he is the engine of his life, and not a boxcar being pulled by others.
Be A Beggar
Because of all the gender confusion in the wake of the women’s equality movement, men have become more sensitive to women’s feelings, which is actually a good thing. But alertness to a woman’s feelings and nurture – good things – are not to be confused with a lack of spine – a bad thing. Women are tired of men who ask. Try stating goal and inviting them rather than asking for a date.
Project Self-Limitation
There are subtle ways people show a lack of self-confidence. These are unsure times, and man’s solidity is a very valuable and sexy masculine trait when it comes to attracting women online. When a man write his profile, man must review it and take out any phrases that limit or diminish him. For example, “He is kind of happy” is an attraction-killer compared to, “That man is a happy man.” Look out for phrases like “sort of” ” and “a little.” Basically, stand for what they say, and stand fully in it. Man don’t diminish commitment to what he say, because that only indicates that he don’t really believe in who he is and what he say.
